My list to Santa

A lot has happened since my last blog, but unfortunately no dates.
I was made redundant at the end of last month, I made the most of it and took the Eurostar to France to go and visit friends and family. I suddenly realised that I had more fan than I expected as my best friend's husband started telling me that I was being a bit harsh with some of my dates. Ouch!
They met on the internet about 7 years ago and have since got married and have two beautiful little girls. I therefore feel that they are well placed to comment on my little dating experiment. But I sure didn't expect to find such an avid reader in her husband. It was surreal to hear them debating about some of my posts whilst we all tried to warm up by the cosy fire in the family home watching the snow slowly covering the garden. My friend's "Jolie Maman" even got in on the dating debate. It was interesting to have their feedback and to hear their stories as even Jolie Maman had some interesting on line dating experiences. Apparently I am not the only one to have man lying about their age, but usually not by 15 years!
All those discussion helped me decide what I want for Christmas.

Dear Santa,

I have been a (relatively) good girl this year and I would like to ask you the following for Christmas:
A few dates each month with seemingly "normal" men:

• preferably aged between 28 and 40,
• who are not already married, engaged or otherwise taken,
• who earn a decent living and can manage their own money, not drink it in the pub or spend it on console games and/or prostitutes,
• who are not dependent on drugs/ alcohol / mummy,
• who can make me laugh and treat me like a princess without being gay (I already have friends like that)

Thank you in advance Santa.

L'Amoureuse

PS: If one of them could be The One too that would be great. Merci!

Big Brother's best mate

Sometimes you need to be cunning whilst sticking to the Rules. I uploaded the pictures of last nights party on my Facebook and tagged my "Big Brother" and his friends I had on my FB on the pictures. I so happened to have a picture of one of his best friends with one of the gentlemen who was chatting me up last night, and I happen to know that they are friends on FB. Again, you have to love FB for those kind of things. The best friend, unknowingly helped me along by tagging the say gentleman on the picture.
I have made the photos open to my friends and their friends hoping that this certain gentlemen might make the most of it and make contact.
Let's wait and see...

Big Brother is watching

Being an only child I have always dreamt to have a big brother. Someone to look out for me, to protect me from trouble and to get me out of it when I managed to get myself in some.

Luckily through my life I have met a couple of people who, although are not blood related, fill this gap. And I was out with one of them last night.

It was a great night and there was a few nice single men too.

As I was ordering at the bar, one of them came to chat to me. As we chatted I heard this very loud "WTF! What are you doing here?". That was my "BB". It turned out they new each other from work! I let them chat for a bit and then before the guy left he mentioned how he would love to get the chance to chat again later. I reminded him that he would know exactly where to find me at the bar, near his ex-colleague. He came back later to find out where we were going next. I told him that I would be following my BB as I was staying with him and his fiancé that night. He went to have a chat with him and just left without a word. Not what I expected.

Like a good Rules Girl, I let it go and move on to chatting to some more people.

Charming man number 2 comes along, a friend of BB, and we chat he is cheeky and funny and we keep mingling with other people. Then I see him chatting to BB... The next time I chat to him, his attitude seems to have slightly changed, and again he leaves without asking for my number.

Ummm.... I think I may need to have a chat with BB. He is supposed to be looking after me, not scaring any man slightly interested in me away!!

I told him this morning that should any of the 2 contact him for my number he was free to give it to them but under no circumstances should he bring it up to them. I figure that following the Rules would mean that they would have to make the first step and effort by asking BB for my number.

I won't be holding my breath on that one. Shame, they were cute.

Truly Rules Friends

And I thought that my friends would try to lead me astray from the Rules. How wrong could I have been?
One girl friend read my blog and sent me strict instruction to not text MrTopGun!!
Later I was chatting to a male friend and thought I would ask him for his opinion. To text or not to text. Well, he backed my girl friend. So, no text!
At least, in the mean time I still have my date tomorrow night...

How can I keep to the Rules when spring is telling me it is time to mate?

Let's face it, it's spring and our animal instincts are telling us it's mating time!

More and more couples are cuddling up on public transport, snogging in the street and just about managing to avoid full on actions in pubs dark corners... And here I stand, on my own and trying to gently keep men away the Rules-way. And right now, it sucks!

I just want a big fat snog with maybe a bit of touchy feely, just to keep me going until I meet Mr Right. But as you all know, I am, deep-down, a good girl and so won't do it. But god, I could kill for a sexy guy to just take me off my feet straight into his bed for some dirty sex!

Never mind, I am now a Rules girl...

Giving it another push?

Of course, I do mean that in the pure Rules sense!

I am considering joining another dating website as I feel that on the current one things have taken a serious nose dive. I just don't seem to be getting:

a) the number of contacts I used too

b) the quality (look wise) of contacts

So, as per The Rules, I am thinking of investigating new possibilities. I had already registered with another site but did not pay to join. Now I feel that it might be time to take the next step.

In the mean time I have been going out and was out in my sexy shoes and dress on Saturday night. I still followed the Rules and mingled, did not stay too long with any potential suitor even if I may have liked one or two, or noticed they liked me. No one asked for my number and I did not ask for anyone's.

But it is getting harder. So far I have been good and followed the Rules, but the temptation to go back to my old self often re-surface on a more and more regular basis. And I wonder whether I should just allow myself one kiss with a man I find cute, as long as I know it won't go any further. Or maybe I could just call on one of my ex for a bit of "je ne sais quoi". I am sure he would be pleased to oblige.

Somehow I have the feeling that as satisfying as this would be, it would only be a short lived reward and would only leave me with a bad after taste...

So, at least for now, I will try to remain a good girl, a Rules girl.

Not enough dates and too much time to think...

And I have been thinking quite a bit. About my dates so far and about what my philosophic friend has been telling me.

As much as I have enjoyed my dates with Mr SA I have felt a spark there. It feels more like I am in a comfort zone. He is a gentleman. He is nice. You wouldn't turn around if you crossed him the street but he is pleasant looking. He says the right things (he wants to settle down and have kids). We even have a few interests in common (he likes long walks and good food). And he wants a dog too.

But is that enough? Did I set myself to follow the Rules to settle for someone who doesn't ignate my flame?

With that in mind I am not sure whether I should confirm our next date for Friday. The longer I keep it going the more awkward the whole thing might become and I am not good at dealing with awkward situations.

Any advice?