Some people might not be photogenic but the more I date from website the more I think that either those guys are over photogenic or airbrushing has become far too accessible to the common of mortal.
Mr Teacher wasn't quite what I had expected, add a few wrinkles, some white hair and a good extra 10 kg. As for being 36... Well, I would have probably added a few dozens of months, but who am I to judge.
I hear you say:
"Don't judge a book by its cover!"
So how about he text me about one hour before our date to say he would be 15 minutes late.
"Fair enough, he gave you warning."
Then turned up another 20 minutes late. As any good Rules Girl I had moved to a comfy pub and let him find it with a minimum information. He finally turned up and apologises for being late. Apparently one of the kids at the school he works at went missing (Dad picked him up when Mum thought it was her turn)
"Well that a good enough reason"
Except that you forgot that I have become a Rules Girl and don't take any excuse for being late on a date.
The conversation was ok. But I think, due to the lack of chemistry, I just didn't enjoy it. I smiled, made a few jokes and made my excuses (work due to go to) and left. Not expecting he would take the tube with me. Thanks God he had to change before my imaginary destination, allowing me to carry on home. as if nothing happened.
As I had to make my excuses to avoid having to seat for dinner with him I am now seating at home with Rivita, Vegemite, Philadelphia and ham.
2 things learnt from this date:
1.Never go by the picture, always expect the worst
2.Eat before a date or make sure you have nice things to eat at home!!!!
The funny thing is, he obviously enjoyed the date far more than I did as I have already got 2 texts from him.
Thursday, 11 March 2010
The... what? Oh... Rules...
Mr Essex should actually be called Mr Eastender... Anyway, we met in Covent Garden only to jump straight back on the tube to Piccadilly and... the Icebar. He had planned the all thing which was really sweet, except for one small details... I don't cope very well with the cold, i.e. I have a condition which mean that I just need to get slightly cold to loose circulation to my fingers and toes... But after all the effort he had put in I couldn't really tell him that. So I braced myself, put my own gloves on before adding their special poncho and gloves. The trip in the Icebar was quick, maybe 20 minutes before we came out, him all proud of his choice, me running for the candle holder in the hope to save my fingers.
During that short time I found out that he is a relationship expert. WTF?
He help kids and adults with relationship issues, traumatised, basically with social issues. And yes, he did try to apply his work to me and I think I have managed to kick most of it back, gently.
I felt pretty comfortable with him and he definitely felt comfortable with me. Maybe a bit too much. Pinching my ass may have just been one step too far. Although he did hold my hand too, on our way to the bar and then on our way to the restaurant.
And yes, I did chat a lot, a bit too much, and turned back to my work mode from time to time, after he admitted being an ex-builder. Worst of all, it turns out we worked in the same company at the same time working for the same Director. Suddenly I started remembering seeing his face around at my old job and busted him on a few rumours with regards to what the boys in his team used to get up to. Chatting up the Beauty girls and taking them back to their secret love nest... He felt silent for a few second. Could I have touched a nerve?
We agreed to meet again, once he is back from his 3 weeks holidays in Vietnam.
Has there been a special deal to Asia? Mr TDH off for a month to Thailand, Mr Essex, sorry Mr Eastender, off to Vietnam for 3 weeks. What am I to do in the meantime?
And for the first time so far since I started The Rules, my date tried to kiss me, and maybe for the first time tonight I followed The Rules and avoided his kiss. Maybe next time.
During that short time I found out that he is a relationship expert. WTF?
He help kids and adults with relationship issues, traumatised, basically with social issues. And yes, he did try to apply his work to me and I think I have managed to kick most of it back, gently.
I felt pretty comfortable with him and he definitely felt comfortable with me. Maybe a bit too much. Pinching my ass may have just been one step too far. Although he did hold my hand too, on our way to the bar and then on our way to the restaurant.
And yes, I did chat a lot, a bit too much, and turned back to my work mode from time to time, after he admitted being an ex-builder. Worst of all, it turns out we worked in the same company at the same time working for the same Director. Suddenly I started remembering seeing his face around at my old job and busted him on a few rumours with regards to what the boys in his team used to get up to. Chatting up the Beauty girls and taking them back to their secret love nest... He felt silent for a few second. Could I have touched a nerve?
We agreed to meet again, once he is back from his 3 weeks holidays in Vietnam.
Has there been a special deal to Asia? Mr TDH off for a month to Thailand, Mr Essex, sorry Mr Eastender, off to Vietnam for 3 weeks. What am I to do in the meantime?
And for the first time so far since I started The Rules, my date tried to kiss me, and maybe for the first time tonight I followed The Rules and avoided his kiss. Maybe next time.
Tuesday, 9 March 2010
Confirmation
How good and well trained are my dates?
Mr Essex texted me last night to confirm our date for tomorrow, well he texted me last night but I was out with a friend so I waited until I got back to my hotel room to answer... at around 10pm.
He responded this morning and confirmed the date.
Then tonight I got the following text from Mr Teacher:
"Bonjour, 006 (rounded up to nearest spy number). How's things? Still on for tomorrow at 7pm? If so, will you have a bicycle, blue and white striped sweater and a beret? ;)"
The 006, refers to our first exchanges on the website and my skydiving picture. He asked whether I was on an international rescue mission or on a stunt for a James film and it can of started there.
Now, I know I have the memory of a gold fish, that's why I have to write down everything. So I checked my calendar and I did definitely booked him for Thursday, not Wednesday.
I send him the following text back:
"Umm... My super spy calendar tells me that we are meeting thursday and today is only tuesday. And of course I will be wearing my blue & white stripe top and beret, although not sure that's very good camouflage for London..."
Mr Teacher:
"You spotted my deliberate mistake! Your super spy calendar is absolutely right, 006... a jeudi ;)"
Yeah, "deliberate mistake". My super spy brain is telling me that he got our date confused with another one of his dates. But who can blame him?
After all, one should appreciate the difficulty of a busy diary. Night free this week... 1. When? Saturday. Surely I can't be home on a Saturday night. I should really be trying to arrange something before the end of tomorrow, only to be a true Rules Girl, obviously!
Mr Essex texted me last night to confirm our date for tomorrow, well he texted me last night but I was out with a friend so I waited until I got back to my hotel room to answer... at around 10pm.
He responded this morning and confirmed the date.
Then tonight I got the following text from Mr Teacher:
"Bonjour, 006 (rounded up to nearest spy number). How's things? Still on for tomorrow at 7pm? If so, will you have a bicycle, blue and white striped sweater and a beret? ;)"
The 006, refers to our first exchanges on the website and my skydiving picture. He asked whether I was on an international rescue mission or on a stunt for a James film and it can of started there.
Now, I know I have the memory of a gold fish, that's why I have to write down everything. So I checked my calendar and I did definitely booked him for Thursday, not Wednesday.
I send him the following text back:
"Umm... My super spy calendar tells me that we are meeting thursday and today is only tuesday. And of course I will be wearing my blue & white stripe top and beret, although not sure that's very good camouflage for London..."
Mr Teacher:
"You spotted my deliberate mistake! Your super spy calendar is absolutely right, 006... a jeudi ;)"
Yeah, "deliberate mistake". My super spy brain is telling me that he got our date confused with another one of his dates. But who can blame him?
After all, one should appreciate the difficulty of a busy diary. Night free this week... 1. When? Saturday. Surely I can't be home on a Saturday night. I should really be trying to arrange something before the end of tomorrow, only to be a true Rules Girl, obviously!
Sunday, 7 March 2010
Update on Mr TDH
As the followers would know Mr TDH was off on a one month trip to Thailand. He didn't call me, that would have just been too good. However before he boarded his plane he sent me the following text:
"Ok. goodbye angel. Have a great month, and be good. Have really enjoyed chatting to you! Big kiss. xxx"
I hear you saying "nothing to write home about". So I just responded:
"Have a fab time in Thailand. Hopefully see you when you get back. x"
That's when I got his sweetest message yet:
"Hopefully you'll still be single because I like you a lot! xxx"
At this stage I made the kind of sounds that women make when seeing the cutest of puppies doing the cutest of things. I got told off by my colleague (female) for being pathetic. Yes, she is single and might be slightly jealous (sorry girl if you are reading this but I will make you sure I sort you out, no need to be jealous)
As per the Rules I tried to keep an air of mystery but still give him something to hold on to:
"We'll just have to wait and see... but I do hope you come back. I would really like to see you again. Have a fab time. x"
To be continued in one month...?
"Ok. goodbye angel. Have a great month, and be good. Have really enjoyed chatting to you! Big kiss. xxx"
I hear you saying "nothing to write home about". So I just responded:
"Have a fab time in Thailand. Hopefully see you when you get back. x"
That's when I got his sweetest message yet:
"Hopefully you'll still be single because I like you a lot! xxx"
At this stage I made the kind of sounds that women make when seeing the cutest of puppies doing the cutest of things. I got told off by my colleague (female) for being pathetic. Yes, she is single and might be slightly jealous (sorry girl if you are reading this but I will make you sure I sort you out, no need to be jealous)
As per the Rules I tried to keep an air of mystery but still give him something to hold on to:
"We'll just have to wait and see... but I do hope you come back. I would really like to see you again. Have a fab time. x"
To be continued in one month...?
One weekend, two dates
Date 1: Mr SA, it was a rather pleasant surprise. I found myself actually really enjoying our date. It was supposed to be just a drink but as neither of us had lunch we made it a lunch date. The food wasn't great but the company was. He was really sweet we talked about this and that and generally had a nice time. As per the Rules, I made my excuses first telling him that I needed to make a few purchases before going home. He texted me that same evening asking how my shopping went and saying he really enjoyed our date and hoped I did to. After I confirm that I rather enjoyed it he sent me the following text:
"Seeing as we both had a good time, that mean we are obligated to meet up again! How about after work on Wed/Thu?"
Ouch... Wednesday I have a date with Mr Essex, Thursday I have a date with Mr Teacher. So I offered him my last free night that week, Friday telling him I already had plans for the two previous nights. His answer:
"Going out 3 nights in a row. Wow I'm impressed! Unfortunately I have a bday party on Fri night. Would invite u, but u would get the 3rd degree from all my friends, so prob not a good idea for a 3rd date! I've got plans Sat night, but let me know if Sat night suits u, as I should be able to change them."
3rd Date??? I counted 1 so far. I guess he is counting our meeting day as a date. Does that mean he will be expecting more from me on our next date?
I do like the fact that he is already ready to blow his friend to accommodate me.
After a few texts he called me and we agreed on lunch Saturday. Only for me to realise about one hour later that I had my horse riding class at that time. So I texted him to let him know. His answer:
"Talk about high maintenance! Is this your way of testing me?! Just kidding. Unfortunately I do gym and coffee with my friend on Saturday mornings and its kind of our regular catch up so can't do brunch. Let's make it Sat night again and I'll make other plans with my friend. B4 I call him, let me know u're sure Sat is ok. Once u let me know, I will wait 1 hr in case u change your mind :)"
Cheeky! But fair enough! At the end we agreed on brunch Sunday morning so that he didn't have to cancel with his friend, enough jumping through hoops for him. But you have to admit that :
1.he's sweet
2.he's keen
3.he's cheeky
First date of the weekend was a success.
Date 2: Mr England, although he is a very nice guy, there was just no chemistry. He reminded me a lot of one of my ex-colleagues, and as much as I loved him to bits I would not have ever wanted to go out with him. I could picture his house with the tea towels all lined up, the tins all placed in a line, labels facing the same way... you get the picture.
I am kind of wondering if I am not making a mistake here, he is a geologist (good salary), has a boat, a house with a cleaner... I forgot to ask him about his car.
Ok, those of you who know me will know that how much he earns will not make me go one way or another. Don't get me wrong, I would not throw someone wealthy out of my bed, but if this is all he has to bring to the table then thank you, but no thank you!
I guess that makes the second date not has successful, but I guess you can't win them all.
"Seeing as we both had a good time, that mean we are obligated to meet up again! How about after work on Wed/Thu?"
Ouch... Wednesday I have a date with Mr Essex, Thursday I have a date with Mr Teacher. So I offered him my last free night that week, Friday telling him I already had plans for the two previous nights. His answer:
"Going out 3 nights in a row. Wow I'm impressed! Unfortunately I have a bday party on Fri night. Would invite u, but u would get the 3rd degree from all my friends, so prob not a good idea for a 3rd date! I've got plans Sat night, but let me know if Sat night suits u, as I should be able to change them."
3rd Date??? I counted 1 so far. I guess he is counting our meeting day as a date. Does that mean he will be expecting more from me on our next date?
I do like the fact that he is already ready to blow his friend to accommodate me.
After a few texts he called me and we agreed on lunch Saturday. Only for me to realise about one hour later that I had my horse riding class at that time. So I texted him to let him know. His answer:
"Talk about high maintenance! Is this your way of testing me?! Just kidding. Unfortunately I do gym and coffee with my friend on Saturday mornings and its kind of our regular catch up so can't do brunch. Let's make it Sat night again and I'll make other plans with my friend. B4 I call him, let me know u're sure Sat is ok. Once u let me know, I will wait 1 hr in case u change your mind :)"
Cheeky! But fair enough! At the end we agreed on brunch Sunday morning so that he didn't have to cancel with his friend, enough jumping through hoops for him. But you have to admit that :
1.he's sweet
2.he's keen
3.he's cheeky
First date of the weekend was a success.
Date 2: Mr England, although he is a very nice guy, there was just no chemistry. He reminded me a lot of one of my ex-colleagues, and as much as I loved him to bits I would not have ever wanted to go out with him. I could picture his house with the tea towels all lined up, the tins all placed in a line, labels facing the same way... you get the picture.
I am kind of wondering if I am not making a mistake here, he is a geologist (good salary), has a boat, a house with a cleaner... I forgot to ask him about his car.
Ok, those of you who know me will know that how much he earns will not make me go one way or another. Don't get me wrong, I would not throw someone wealthy out of my bed, but if this is all he has to bring to the table then thank you, but no thank you!
I guess that makes the second date not has successful, but I guess you can't win them all.
Thursday, 4 March 2010
Wanting it my way and the Rules way... Is it possible?
So Mr TDH keeps texting me, no calls. I have tried keeping off the text for a while but he just keeps texting more. And I find it difficult not too text back, he is very cute and very cheeky. But I am not sure he is pursuing me for the right reasons... and I am only human and have needs to. Should I just take advantage of the situation and make the most of Mr TDH? He is off to Thailand for a month so I guess we'll see how it goes when he comes back.
I have always said that he would be the one to make me break the Rules, my challenge, my Mount Everest. I am dying to text him "Just call me already!!!" Ok I know I shouldn't have but I had to send him a hint "Shame we won't get to chat before you go." That's all... Is it breaking the Rules?
Don't worry, I haven't gone into an imaginary relationship... yet.
I keep on going on other dates, Mr SA, Saturday (confirmed); Mr England, Sunday (confirmed) and Mr Essex, Wednesday (confirmed).
Mr SpeedD has no taken is profile off the website and not responded to my e-mail so that is another one lost to the cause of the Rules.
Not to worry, I already have someone else ready to take his place, he is of Irish decent, 36, a teacher and lives in North London. We've exchanged a few e-mails, a couple of texts and we are in the process of confirming a date. Should we call him Mr Teacher?
You never know I may actually learn something in the next few weeks...
I have always said that he would be the one to make me break the Rules, my challenge, my Mount Everest. I am dying to text him "Just call me already!!!" Ok I know I shouldn't have but I had to send him a hint "Shame we won't get to chat before you go." That's all... Is it breaking the Rules?
Don't worry, I haven't gone into an imaginary relationship... yet.
I keep on going on other dates, Mr SA, Saturday (confirmed); Mr England, Sunday (confirmed) and Mr Essex, Wednesday (confirmed).
Mr SpeedD has no taken is profile off the website and not responded to my e-mail so that is another one lost to the cause of the Rules.
Not to worry, I already have someone else ready to take his place, he is of Irish decent, 36, a teacher and lives in North London. We've exchanged a few e-mails, a couple of texts and we are in the process of confirming a date. Should we call him Mr Teacher?
You never know I may actually learn something in the next few weeks...
Tuesday, 2 March 2010
Quiet before the storm?
Remember when I said that Mr TDH would be the real test? Well he sure proved it this weekend. We were meant to meet on Saturday night. On Friday he suggested that we meet at a Hotel bar near I live. I would have usually called a friend for advised as I felt uncomfortable about it, instead I just texted him back: "Sorry to be a pain but I don't feel comfortable meeting at a hotel bar. Any chance of a bar in a city centre? Maybe XX, YY or ZZ? I am flexible as can drive there. Vx"
Ok, I could... SHOULD have omitted the "I'm flexible" bit. Oh well...
Within a few minutes I got this back "No worries. Will think of a plan b. xxx"
Well, plan B didn't happen as he called sick. However there was plenty of texting. I didn't respond to all and just got even more texts. Some of them were a bit cheeky and I ignore the very cheeky ones, no matter how tempting they may have been (you can take the girl out of her bad habits, you just can't take the bad habits out of the girl). He did try to reschedule for tonight but as he is off for a month abroad tomorrow night he is panic packing instead. I guess if he is really interested I should be hearing from him in one month. Not that he has stopped texted me since the weekend, and always long messages ending with "xxx".
My Monday date was a no-show, I guess the fact that I only texted him after he left for his week away probably didn't help. No news since. Never mind. Next!
On a positive side, Mr Essex has been in touch. He wanted to meet this Sunday evening in central London. I didn't really feel like travelling all the way to Central London on a Sunday evening, it would have felt a bit too much like work. He agreed with me and so we are meeting Wednesday next week instead.
Other plans for this week, Saturday Mr SA, Saturday or Sunday Mr England but he is a TBC.
To be continued....
Ok, I could... SHOULD have omitted the "I'm flexible" bit. Oh well...
Within a few minutes I got this back "No worries. Will think of a plan b. xxx"
Well, plan B didn't happen as he called sick. However there was plenty of texting. I didn't respond to all and just got even more texts. Some of them were a bit cheeky and I ignore the very cheeky ones, no matter how tempting they may have been (you can take the girl out of her bad habits, you just can't take the bad habits out of the girl). He did try to reschedule for tonight but as he is off for a month abroad tomorrow night he is panic packing instead. I guess if he is really interested I should be hearing from him in one month. Not that he has stopped texted me since the weekend, and always long messages ending with "xxx".
My Monday date was a no-show, I guess the fact that I only texted him after he left for his week away probably didn't help. No news since. Never mind. Next!
On a positive side, Mr Essex has been in touch. He wanted to meet this Sunday evening in central London. I didn't really feel like travelling all the way to Central London on a Sunday evening, it would have felt a bit too much like work. He agreed with me and so we are meeting Wednesday next week instead.
Other plans for this week, Saturday Mr SA, Saturday or Sunday Mr England but he is a TBC.
To be continued....
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